Five tips to ensure your matches aren’t talking to a wall
No more letters and pigeon posts. The rapid emergence of dating apps have entirely changed our modern dating lives. Apps like Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, and Grindr have paved an easy path to love, and changed the way people approach it.
We can easily talk to the person we like by just swiping the screen. And as the saying goes — easy come, easy go; interest for each other on dating apps can quickly fade with time too. No worries, we are here to help you imprint your appearance in your crush’s mind.
Here are five useful tips that you can use to keep your date interested.
1. Avoid yes/no questions
If your conversation seems to have died down, the best solution here is to start asking thought-provoking and open-ended questions. Go with questions that require thought. These will not only keep the conversation flowing smoothly, but also show that you are genuinely interested in their story and are eager to know them better.
To show that you have been paying attention, ask about something they brought up before. For example, ask “how was the concert last night?” or “what happened with that job interview?”
You can also use questions such as “tell me more about XYZ” or “what’s your opinion on…” However, when starting a new topic, keep it light and avoid sensitive topics like politics or religion.
You can also ask about their interests, hobbies, backgrounds, or their sense of humor.
2. Be a bit flirty and cheeky
Let us not forget that you are both on a dating app. Being a bit flirty is important, since you want to show them you are interested. Try dropping some subtle but not too obvious hints that you are into them.
For instance, you can start a conversation with something like, “I saw something that made me think of you.” The key here is trying to be original and genuine. Stop overusing those pick-up lines on the internet.
3. “Flattery will get you everywhere”
Do not be shy about giving compliments when you want to spice things up. Everyone loves receiving compliments. These will make your crush feel good and in turn, make them more likely to respond to your messages. It could be something simple like “I like the color of your eyes” or “I love the way you smile.”
Once again, these compliments should be genuine and straight out of your heart. Another small tip is try adding your date’s name to the end of every compliment. This will help you personalize your message and make it more meaningful.
4. Share pictures
People love looking at pictures. Since you are both just talking to each other online, your day-to-day pictures will be helpful for your crush to know who you truly are in real life. Also, do not be afraid to ask them to send pics, too, just don’t get pushy or ask for something they are not comfortable sharing.
5. Offer a new platform
While texting with your crush is a great start to beginning a new relationship, it can often be misleading because you cannot see your match’s emotions and gestures. Consider offering them the usage of other platforms as a way of communicating, such as a phone call or FaceTime.
This is great for when things get dry through messaging. You can say something like “Hi, do you want to FaceTime?” or “I would love to hear your voice. Can I call you?” Trust me, talking on the phone will give out a completely different vibe.