‘ghostin’ is only fun when it’s an Ariana Grande song

This goes out to anyone who’s ever been ghosted before. 

Through this new online era that we currently are in, dating apps have taken off and many people, myself included, have grown fond of trying to find “the one” on these various platforms. 

The time of love at first sight now seems like a thing of the past — ancient history. Instead of looking across the bar and liking someone’s vibe, now it all is about who is holding the biggest fish.

I’m only joking, but a lot of people are so precious when it comes to their online dating profiles. Making a first impression is important — it can determine who swipes right and who swipes left. 

When you finally get your profile to look exactly the way you want it to, and you start to match with people, your inbox can be a various assortment of “sup,” “heyyyyy,” or the worst pickup line you ever have seen in your entire life. 

After all that time of creating sheer perfection, one can be underwhelmed by the responses of others. All that effort to create a masterpiece, for what?

But then, there is the one. They have a first message that actually shows they took time to look at your profile. You hit it off, and everything is going great, and you think you may have found the one. 

You go to bed expecting to wake up to a long love letter from your new Prince Charming, but the next day you look at your phone, and you see nothing, and when you investigate more, they have vanished into thin air, like the conversation never even occurred in the first place. 

Guess what, you just got ghosted. 

If you do not know what ghosting is, I feel jealous of you. However, I do feel like most people have experienced ghosting at least one time, which is when, out of nowhere, people vanish from conversation. 

Since everything is online now, people feel more confident to just mess around and have fun with the Internet. Most of the time, you never will even meet the people you see online, so if you are looking for one night of conversation, you can easily do it, block them, and forget that it ever happened. 

But, some people (me) have fallen victim to ghosting far too much, and it is time that we speak up and tell people to stop. 

Please stop. It really hurts my feelings. I’m a Cancer sun, Libra moon, and Aquarius rising. I’m sensitive. 

Happy I got that out of the way. 

But in all honesty, I get it. It’s easy to ghost someone. Have I ghosted others? Maybe. But it is time that we as a society put an end to this new norm. 

It’s convenient, but hurtful. We have to be honest with one another and ourselves about how we are truly feeling.

If you just are looking for a quick conversation for the night so you aren’t lonely, tell them upfront. This could lead you to one of the best conversations of your life with no fear of having to deal with the consequences the next day. 

Do not have someone open up to you just to disappear the next day; it is emotional manipulation, and no one wants to be a master manipulator when it comes to people’s feelings. 

There is no way that ghosting will end overnight, but by everyone taking steps towards having open and honest communication with one another, online dating may become a thing that everyone enjoys again.

If you have been ghosted, trust me — I understand and I have been there, but know that it never was your fault, and do not feel victimized. It happens to everyone, and one day you will finally meet the one.

Being constantly ghosted doesn’t mean any of the negative thoughts you are thinking in your head. It just is something that we all have to go through. You are wonderful, beautiful, and talented; do not define your worth by how others treat you online.

And, let’s be frank — the only ghosting I care about is during Halloween when I watch the Charlie Brown special, and it should be the only one you care about too.